Goodbye to the Old, welcome to the New

2019 you have been intense and more life-changing I could have ever imagined!

It started the year with my sister in Brazil in the most dreamy island Boipeba.

Boipeba Island – Brazil

I then went back to Paris to study and took my final exams while getting ready for my upcoming adventure in New Zealand – in other words moving out from my flat in Paris and packing up for one year (with the help of some amazing friends).

I also visited my family in Poland and the French Riviera to say goodbye and I arrived in New Zealand at the end of January to start my new job, my end of studies’ internship and to write my masters thesis.

Poland with my grandpa

While this might be pictured like the dream life with so many travels and adventures – and I was convinced it was – it appeared to be way too much for my dear human envelop.

The thing is I started binging when I returned from Brazil and it only got worse and worse when I arrived in New Zealand. 

When I say binging I mean eating disproportionate amounts of food when I wasn’t hungry on the the top of a balanced meal. Like if it was my task and I couldn’t not stop thinking about it until it was done.

From there I started questioning myself on the reasons that might have led there. I just couldn’t understand WHY this was happening when I had all I wanted in life and everything was going for the best.

Almost one year after and with another perspective I now understand that I am an not unlimited and you are not either if you’re still reading me 😉 

The best is the enemy of the good

It makes sense that it was just too much. We are just humans. Not computers. And even machines need some power and battery to work. In a society that encourages and rewards you for being busy, I had to take the responsibility to press « stop » and face the reality of a tangible health issue.

I am not blaming the past, I am just learning from it for the rest of my life. I wouldn’t repeat it but I wouldn’t change it if I could. 

Today, December 2020 I couldn’t give a full recipe of my healing journey. What I remember though is that I focused on slowing it down, taking it easy, do not compensating with some intense exercise or dieting and loving myself unconditionally. It was hard sometimes, easier some days. It was a long, a very long process. And know that I still carry these patterns within me.

Trust you timing

But today I consider myself as healed. I do not binge anymore and I THANK God for that. I still see coaches and counsellors to help me let go of what’s left of this pattern. The way I dealt with my body image and relationship during an eating disorder phase is a whole other topic and I will probably talk about it in another blogpost.

So here I am saying goodbye to the Old and welcoming the New. I welcome a balanced life where healthy and active lifestyle (loads of yoga, running, hikes, travels, good sleep, yummy and feel good food) , social life (friends and fam are life!) and work (starting my new job in Brussels Feb 1st) collide and that make space for some…TIME OFF 😀 Welcome 2020 !

Enjoy all the colours of the rainbow

As I end this blog post, I just wanted you to know to know if you’re you suffering of eating disorders that there is a way out. Speak out and seek for help. There is nothing to be ashamed about as everyone has their demons. Please never give up!

And if you are someone who’s not personally affected I am glad you red this article anyway as this is still a tabou topic that needs more awareness.

Finally, I wanted to aknowledge all the beautiful souls – places – landscapes – moments – cafĂ©s – countries – achievements – challenges that still made 2019 the BEST year of my life.

Namast’hey friends,

xx

Melodie

22 things I learned in 22 years

Hi there, I am so happy to be back on the blog just one month following my 23-birthday (that I got to spend in New Zealand) to share with you 22 things I learned in 22 years. I made a similar post one last year for my 22-birthday and I loved this self-reflexion exercice. So here we go with my reflexions from this year:

  • You know nothing but it’s okay to believe in something: there are hundreds of theories on what’s the healthiest lifestyle, the best education, not even talking religious wise. Even if you acknowledge the truth might not be the same for everyone, it’s okay to have convictions but always keep an open-mind and be tolerant.
  • It’s my responsibility to create my own happiness. I know what makes me happy so let’s add this moments in my daily routine: yoga practice, cooking, journaling, talking to my mum over the phone, meeting up with my buddies, gratitude list, travelling, sleeping 😀 And the list goes on!
  • We are all the same but DIFFERENT! What works for me might not work for everyone: food, diet or work wise. We all have different backgrounds, physical and mental conditions, environments that it all vary so everyone has to find what’s the best for them!!
  • You can make the best use of this digital age (which also means you can make the worst). Many people may say there is less social interaction and find a lot of down sides to it which can be true at some point yet I personally met some of my best friends on the internet and also get so much inspiration and knowledge from it.
  • People don’t follow their own advice. Some people say it’s normal and I believe in some extent it is but I also think that if you want to inspire people to do things, the best way is to demonstrate and show it works.
Janvier 2019, Itacaré, Brésil
  • The best thing you can do on a daily basis is to support your friends, family and people in general. Reminded by the kiwi prime ministers Jacinda Ardern when she came to visit one of the high school I am working in Christchurch.
  • Beauty is plural. Beauty is energy. Beauty is a feeling you have about someone else when they are thriving. Beauty is taking care of your physical envelope and your mental health. There is no definition to beauty. Just the one you choose to give it to.
  • Eat your fruits and veggies (organic when possible). Make sure to add them at some point to your diet. There is nothing as nutritious and more replenishing than consuming them. Consider them under their all forms and shapes and make it tasty. E.i smoothies, soups, cold-pressed juice, roasted veggies, raw etc.
  • Exercise for your health and your well-being. Think long term. It makes the difference.
  • You don’t have to justify every time you go out (or take a story) without makeup, unshaved. Your body = no rules and definitely no necessity to be consistent whatsoever.
  • It’s okay not have an opinion on everything and not to know in general. Yet keep an open mind. ‘Critical mind’ is something you learn at school. ‘Open mind’ is something you learn by yourself.
  • It’s not my responsibility to dispense advice to anyone that talks to you. You can simply listen with an open heart.
  • The 21th century is a crazy age when freedom is defined by how far you can travel from ‘home’ whereas some people would just give everything out to be reunited with their family and friends on a daily basis.
  • Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.– Mary Schmich, “Wear Sunscreen”
  • Some people already have done the job of putting words together so don’t be afraid to quote them when you relate to their preach. Don’t be afraid to say to others humans you like what they do as well and spread love.
Mars 2019, Christchurch, Nouvelle-ZĂ©lande
  • You can make every situation win-win. Use your brain to find how.
  • Humans are social animals. Spending time alone is good and beneficial until you feel it’s enough for now. Don’t let the anxiety stop you from going outside and meeting, sharing and bonding with other humans. They are some good people out there!
  • It’s not a shame to be on Tinder. It’s a place where you publicly admit than you are looking for some(one). It’s also your right to say you are not interested if that’s the case.
  • Contradictions are part of being human: I sometimes like to go out and dance and other nights just chilling with my better self, a book and candles.
  • Competition is not a bad thing if you think life as game. I have to get into details for this one: I honestly thought exactly the contrary not so long ago. But then, I started teaching as a French assistant in two high school in New Zealand and realised how competition was motivating, especially the youngest ones (12 years old). You might think ‘okay but they had the time to be brainwashed at this age’. Maybe. Maybe not.
Août 2018, Toulon, France
  • Limiting beliefs are only: l i m i t i n g   b e l i e f s. You can overpass them. And positive affirmations are a great tool for that. Suggested mantras:

I am capable to take actions, now.

I am grateful for the present moment and I also work towards the life of my dreams.

I am worthy to live the life of my dreams and thrive.

I am inspired and inspiring.

You might want to create yours as well 🙂

  • Accept all your emotions but keep them in motion. Creating and nourishing a tool box of things that help me accept, process and understand my emotions is something I found sooooo helpful. This includes among others: yoga, breathing, massages, emotional freedom technique, scribing, cleaning (I am sure you didn’t expect this one haha but when I organise my room I clear my mind. At least that’s how it feels lol).

Well thank you so much for reading me. I really appreciate. If you can relate to one of these advice please feel free to share it in the comments. Cheers and write to you soon 🙂

Melodie

Vivre ses rĂȘves | DĂ©part en Nouvelle-ZĂ©lande

Hello hello,

Si tu me suis sur Instagram @thegreenharmonia, tu sais sans doute déjà que je me trouve actuellement en Nouvelle-Zélande, à Christchurch pour une durée indéterminée.

Loin de la vie parisienne effrĂ©nĂ©e, j’ai fait le rĂȘve il y a quelques mois de retrouver un environnement plus proche de la nature, plus calme, propice au dĂ©veloppement de ma crĂ©ativitĂ© et de mes projets personnels. Je rĂȘvais aussi d’une profession Ă©thique, qui me permettrait de me sentir utile, gagner en nouvelles aptitudes, gagner de l’argent, le tout en temps-partiel me laissant du temps pour mes mille et un projets. Je rĂȘvais de partir Ă  l’autre bout du monde, lĂ  oĂč je ne connaitrais personne et oĂč je n’avais jamais mis les pieds. Je rĂȘvais d’une collocation vĂ©gane. Je rĂȘvais d’un chez moi cosy, propre, cosy, ordonnĂ©, d’une chambre Ă©clairĂ©e avec vue sur les montagnes. Je rĂȘvais d’un entourage bienveillant, me permettant de faire un pas de plus vers cette personne unique et singuliĂšre que je suis (et que tu es toi aussi !) et de m’assumer pleinement.

Et un jour, le 1 fĂ©vrier 2019, j’ai pris un avion en direction d’Auckland, enfin deux avions, pour le plus long voyage en avion de ma vie !

Coucher du soleil à Auckland, 7 février 2019

La rĂ©alisation de ce rĂȘve, et sa superposition avec la validation de mon M2 MĂ©dias et NumĂ©rique au Celsa-Sorbonne en parallĂšle de celui-ci m’a demandĂ© beaucoup de prĂ©paration. Et oui, il n’y a a pas que les dĂ©cisions spontanĂ©es qui sont Ă  l’origine de changements majeurs :). La prĂ©paration, comprend notamment des Ă©tapes tangibles comme postuler Ă  des programmes (comme celui grĂące auquel je suis partie en Nouvelle-ZĂ©lande) et moins tangibles mais tout aussi efficaces comme la visualisation (qui consiste Ă  te visualiser tes rĂȘves dĂ©jĂ  rĂ©alisĂ©s) . Je t’explique Ă©tape par Ă©tape comment la candidature se dĂ©roule juste ici.

MERCI la vie pour ce rĂȘve Ă©veillĂ© que je suis en train de vivre au moment oĂč je tape ce texte que je vais prendre un immense plaisir Ă  partager avec toi ici.

Bref, j’ai eu Ă©normĂ©ment de questions sur la Nouvelle-ZĂ©lande, ce que j’y fais, si c’est cher, si les gens y sont Ă©colos, si ĂȘtre vĂ©gane c’est facile, si ça me plait…que j’ai dĂ©cidĂ© de crĂ©er un podcast Expore Nouvelle-ZĂ©lande, un intitulĂ© franglais, tout moi :D.

Le premier épisode, nommé PremiÚres Impressions est à retrouver juste ici ! Je te souhaite une bonne écoute et dans le prochain je te parlerai de ce fameux métier à temps partiel que je prends un immense plaisir à exercer du lundi au jeudi (dixit week-end de 3 jours yepa) !

Bon week-end Ă  toi et Ă  bientĂŽt,

MĂ©lodie

Learn French with mindful videos

Dear, you,

I see you.
You want to learn French.
You don’t know where to start.
Well, you are reading this article which is a great first step.
French is a complex language, but you can do it.
Try to have fun in the process thought.

What if you tried another way to learn a language? Thanks to Youtube videos for instance


In this article, I will introduce you to 5 French mindful YouTubers that have not only a great pronunciation but that also share such interesting and uplifting content around personal development, online business, travels, spirituality and healthy lifestyle in general.

Heloise Monchablon – Easy Blush

I was lucky enough to meet Heloise twice and can tell her good vibes online and in real life. She is so beautiful inside and out. Her content is various. It goes from personal development to natural and organic makeup, as long with recipes and life experiences
lifestyle in a world 😉
What I also appreciate is that she produces slow content. What I mean is that the anything she creates is powered by her heart and not by pressure or obligation. You can feel it.

It goes without saying that the tone of her voice (so much serenity) and pronunciation will make it easy for you if you have an intermediary or advanced level. If you are just starting to learn French, – I think that if you share the area of interest, which includes spirituality, travels and a healthy lifestyle in general -, it might be worth the challenge. You might not understand everything in the first video but I’m pretty sure it will get better over the weeks.

Emilio Abril

Are you keen on online business, digital nomads life or/and you want to become an entrepreneur? Then’s Emilio Abril’s videos are for you. He has got 3 Youtube channel:

  • Vert Feuille: talks about healthy food habits and food you should eat to optimise your health. Emilio is vegan.
  • Emilio Abril: is about diverse topics such as personal development, online business, super humans (a concept initiated by himself which consists of optimising humans performance with habits and consistency) and overall how to become the best version of yourself.
  • Biziness Hacker is focused on entrepreneur life. Emilio gives lots of advice on online business and how to become a digital nomad.

Same as for Heloise, he’s French is very clear and his pronunciation amazing. The vocabulary used is simple and he goes straight to the point. He uses some slang words sometimes. Thus, it gives you an overview of the way the youth speak in French-speaking countries.

Emilie Anne

Do you fancy travel diaries and personal development? Then Emilie Anne‘s channel is for you! It contains so much inspiration and shows you that you don’t have to fit in a box to bloom and expand. That you can change your mind, your job, your location
and start all over again anytime! The motto of Emilie Anne’s ‘Time to bloom‘ and she certainly encourages you to become the best version of yourself. She even has a whole playlist dedicated to it.

Besides the positive vibes Emilie’s (Anne is actually her second name) she shares along with her videos, her French is very clear and dynamic. She might speak a bit faster than the other Youtubers presented in this blog post yet that’s a great training if you want to experience how French people talk in real life (as they speak quite fast in general.) Listen, listen and you will end up by understanding 🙂

Ferdinand Richter

Want free coaching to turn your dreams into reality? Well, Ferdinand Richter is here to provide you advice to live a better life. He’s a certified coach and he bases his method on understand human’s cycles just like the the nature. Check him out he speaks relatively slow and his content is so valuable.

Melodie – The Green Harmonia

And to finish with…why not following my Youtube channel hahaha? To be very honest, oral speaking was not my strength a couple of year back. I used to mumble and not finish my sentences. I have improved so much over the time. And I am sure YouTube helped a lot because I was able to hear me and realise that sometimes I struggled to understand myself and hence why I put a lot of attention to speak clearly. If you still want to hear me and be accountable for my progress, feel free to check out my latest video about my trip to Brazil:

Well, that’s it! Thank you so much for reading me and I really hope this blog post will help you to learn French and become more mindful at the same time 😉 Sounds great isn’t it? So #letssartfrench with #thegreenharmonia

Namastey dears,

Melodie

10 habitudes pour se faire du bien

« C’est dans vos moments de dĂ©cision que votre destin se façonne.» Tony Robbins

Bien que cet article soit en continuitĂ© avec la rentrĂ©e de septembre, je pense que les conseils bien-ĂȘtre dispensĂ©s ci-dessous peuvent s’appliquer Ă  n’importe quel moment de l’annĂ©e, en prenant toujours le soin de respecter ton propre rythme. Sans plus tarder, je te partage avec joie les 10 habitudes…

Manger plus végétal

Parce que la nourriture vĂ©gĂ©talienne est aujourd’hui recommandĂ©e de nombreuses organisations planĂ©taires de santĂ©, tu peux sans crainte rajouter plus de vĂ©gĂ©taux Ă  tes repas au long de la journĂ©e. Ça peut commencer par un fruit le matin, puis des quelques feuilles d’épinard dans ton riz le midi, des noix au goĂ»ter et des protĂ©ines vĂ©gĂ©tales le soir, avec cette recette du houmous par exemple. Tu te sentiras plus lĂ©ger.e, mais tout autant rassasiĂ©.e !

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Faire un sport qu’on aime

Ce point me tient particuliĂšrement Ă  cƓur. L’activitĂ© physique est importante, ça coule de source. En faire un moment de plaisir, c’est encore mieux. J’ai longtemps fait de la musculation en salle de sport parce que c’était Ă  la mode et pour avoir ce fameux booty que te vendent les nanas sur Instagram et YouTube. Et ce n’est pas dramatique du tout, ça arrive Ă  tout le monde de s’égarer 😉 Aujourd’hui je pratique la danse, le yoga, du renforcement musculaire, de la course Ă  pied et tout genre du sport qui me met en joie et contribue Ă  mon bien-ĂȘtre intĂ©rieur et extĂ©rieur.

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Boire suffisamment

On l’oublie souvent, surtout lorsque les jours se refroidissent. Mais s’hydrater est primordial pour une bonne digestion, une belle peau et une bonne Ă©nergie tout au long de la journĂ©e. Avoir une gourde Ă  proximité au quotidien peut faciliter le rĂ©flexe de boire frĂ©quemment. Une Ă©tude affirme qu’une des causes majeures de la fatigue serait le manque d’eau. À toi de jouer maintenant pour y remĂ©dier !

S’accorder des moments pour soi

Avec l’automne qui invite Ă  l’introspection et Ă  prendre du temps pour soi, s’accorder quelques moments off peut faire beaucoup de bien. Ça peut ĂȘtre un automassage du visage avec de l’huile vĂ©gĂ©tale, une lecture avant de se coucher, un Ă©pisode de ta chaĂźne Youtube prĂ©fĂ©rĂ©, un matcha latte chez Wild and The Moon
toutes les idĂ©es sont bonnes. Tant qu’elles te font du bien, Ă  toi.

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MĂ©diter

Les bienfaits de la mĂ©ditation sont innombrables et ont Ă©tĂ© prouvĂ©s scientifiquement. Dans notre sociĂ©tĂ© Ă  2000 Ă  l’heure, la mĂ©ditation permet de mieux se concentrer, dormir, et mieux vivre en gĂ©nĂ©ral. Elle nous invite Ă  nous recentrer sur le moment prĂ©sent, prendre du recul sur nos petits soucis du quotidien et apporte une sensation de bien-ĂȘtre et d’accalmie. Je pratique personnellement la mĂ©ditation Jyoti, qui m’apporte Ă©normĂ©ment. Je te dĂ©cris la mĂ©thode de A Ă  Z dans cette vidĂ©o.

Comme le dit bien ma prof de mĂ©ditation, ce n’est pas notre vie qui change quand on mĂ©dite, c’est nos rĂ©actions envers la vie. Nos rĂ©actions influencent nos choix et nos choix dĂ©terminent notre destin…

Tester des nouvelles recettes

Il n’y a rien de mieux que de savoir Ă©veiller ses papilles avec ses deux mains en testant des nouveautĂ©s. De savoir se faire des petits plats rassasiant et bons pour la santĂ©. Pour cela, direction la cuisine pour se challenger un peu.

Cela n’a bien Ă©videmment pas besoin d’ĂȘtre compliquĂ©, et si tu n’as vraiment pas le temps, choisir l’option veggie au restaurant d’entreprise ou universitaire peut aussi faire l’affaire.

Pour les plus courageux, je mets cette vidéo ici :

Aller à des événements inspirants

Il y a tant d’Ă©vĂ©nements (gratuits) sur des sujets divers et variĂ©s que ce serait dommage de ne pas en profiter. Facebook te propose de trier les Ă©vĂ©nements en fonction de tes centres d’intĂ©rĂȘts dans une zone gĂ©ographique donnĂ©e, et il y a moyen de trouver des pĂ©pites ! Une rubrique events est par ailleurs Ă  venir sur mon blog, dans laquelle je souhaiterais publier ma sĂ©lection d’Ă©vĂ©nements Ă  impact positif et abordables. Pour le moment, j’en parle notamment sur Instagram.

Apprendre quelque chose de nouveau

Il peut s’agir d’une langue Ă©trangĂšre (en ce moment pour moi il s’agit du portugais), de l’implĂ©mentation d’un nouvel outil d’organisation (Trello, Monday ou Slack) ou encore de l’Ă©coute d’un podcast sur un thĂšme qui te passionne. Les possibilitĂ©s sont infinies, mais encore une fois, au bout du compte, l’idĂ©e est de prendre du plaisir 🙂

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Faire des rencontres

Partager du temps avec des gens qu’on aime ou faire des recontres est essentiel pour s’Ă©panouir dans sa vie personnelle ou professionnelle. Sylvie Mouchenik, naturopathe Ă  Paris, rappelait lors de son dernier atelier Ă  quel point les relations sociales sont importantes et contribuent Ă  une hygiĂšne de vie saine autant que l’alimentation ou le sommeil.

RĂȘver grand !

Pour une fois, vois les choses en grand et imagine. Il y a trÚs peu de choses qui sont réellement compliquées à réaliser, la plupart prennent du temps, du travail et de la détermination, mais arrivent à qui veut bien se préparer à les accueillir.

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Merci d’avoir lu cet article jusqu’au bout ! À mon tour, je suis curieuse de savoir quelles sont tes petites habitudes quotidiennes qui contribuent Ă  une vie plus Ă©panouie ?

N’hĂ©site pas Ă  partager cela dans les commentaires,

Bises,

MĂ©lodie

Retrouvailles avec la danse

La danse. Un fin mĂ©lange d’art et d’exercice physique. Un moyen de libre expression. Une antidote pour le stress. Un moment suspendu. Un outil pour se dĂ©passer psychologiquement (pour la mĂ©moire) et physiquement (pour le cardio). Un instant de pleine conscience et de prĂ©sence. VoilĂ  ce qu’évoque la danse pour moi.

La danse. Un fin mĂ©lange d’art et d’exercice physique. Un moyen de libre expression. Une antidote pour le stress. Un moment suspendu. Un outil pour se dĂ©passer psychologiquement (pour la mĂ©moire) et physiquement (pour le cardio). Un instant de pleine conscience et de prĂ©sence. VoilĂ  ce qu’évoque la danse pour moi. Continuer Ă  lire … « Retrouvailles avec la danse »

Rosemary Dream: Empowerment Center in Brazil

Hi there,

From now on, I’m going to write every second article in English as I love to connect with people from all over the world and I am aware automatic Google Translation (French to English) is not that good haha.

Today I want to talk you about my experience in an Empowerment Center in Brazil called Rosemary Dream where I stayed in January this year for a weak. Continuer Ă  lire … « Rosemary Dream: Empowerment Center in Brazil »